Thursday, 6 October 2016

Lessons Learned #2

Hello Everyone! 

I hope life is treating you well!!

Today I wanted to discuss some more lessons that I have learned, cause I really liked talking about a few in one of my recent posts so I decided it would be cool to talk about 10 more lessons as so I hope it would be worth the read as the last one so lets delve in shall we? :)
Some people find forgiving a matter of life and death but to be honest it ain't difficult , the thing which is hard is the first step and once you take it you are going to feel great and it wont make you small at all! People find forgiving hard cause they think that it is going to make them small or lose there worth but the reality is opposite. Forgiving gives you the sort of respect nothing can possibly give you and other then that the amount of satisfaction you get in return is immense. So just learn to forgive and please don't make your life difficult by keeping grudges cause they can and will harm you! Forgiving is hard but it just takes a nice heart to do it and YOU can do it!

Well it is an understatement that admiring someone or appreciating is the thing which people rarely do but the thing people easily do is to criticize someone cause it gives them the upper hand and make them feel as if they are more sensible but that's not the case! Everyone can relate to this point I believe cause we are criticized several times in our life times as compared to the rate of being appreciated. Doing several good things .. and no real appreciation in return and just do one bad thing critics will emerge from no where within no span of time. Another sad reality but it is true! It takes a lot of strength to appreciate someone, that's why people don't do it as much as they should on the contrary to criticizing and taking out flaws is very easy and doesn't require a lot of strength! People forget that if you appreciate someone they are gonna work wonders in return and on criticism a lot of people feel dis hearten and just don't wanna do anything at all but we the critics don't understand this sadly! I think that we should make a habit of appreciating the little things despite criticizing the huge mistakes!

Tea.. such a great thing that we are blessed with. Some people don't drink it at all, the others who do drink it are addicted to it, their days are incomplete with out it! I have a cup on my bed side table, which I DIY'ed and I handwrote this quote which goes "You can't buy happiness but you can buy tea and it's pretty much the same thing"! 
I am a tea/coffee addict as well and I honestly am a firm believer that tea fixes most things. And I am the sort of person who gets so fascinated by scenes in films and novels in which the characters are just making a cuppa tea and just the thought of that kettle being on, satisfies me immensely. Then taking that cup from kitchen counter to a window sill and just simply cherishing every sip of that tea makes me wanna get up and make my own cup of tea! and tbh and do that all the time.. So yeah just any kind of tea, we have loads and loads these days, make things a lot simple not in literal meaning but still it just gives you a feeling of contentment which makes you feel better! So if you are reading this make yourself a good old cuppa tea and drink and cherish it as you read this post!

Living the sort of busy lives that we are living now, we forget ourselves and just give the whole of ourselves to others, whoever they might be. We forget that we matter. We lost ourselves in this crowded world and forget to find ourselves back again. Its not good to forget who you are for the sake of the world cause world is gonna use you and throw you away like a used tissue paper, you will become part of the trash bin soon! PS it sounds like it has happened to me but thank goodness it hasn't but its just a thing that I have seen... And nobody except YOU can help you in finding yourself!  We give our hearts and souls and what we get nothing.. and people take us for granted!
Taking out time for yourself is as important as giving your time to the world, cause you.. yes you matters! And the things that matters are not left the way you have left it.. Take time for yourself, don't make yourself small that not only you but people around you forget your worth! Give other the time and all but please while doing that don't forget yourself!

Its again a sure thing that people don't really care about you until and unless they really do care about it which is very rare case so whats the point in sharing your weaknesses with like everyone, share it with them you feel comfortable in but not with everyone cause no one is really always there for you and nobody really cares! The sort of time in which we are living, people haven't got time to solve their issues, why would they pay attention to yours so be careful who you chose to share your weaknesses with. You share 'em to make yourself feel a bit stronger but if your choice is wrong then it is gonna make you more weak! But people are gonna use your weaknesses against you so be careful in who you trust!

We being the most sensible people we think we are, are just too good to give sermons to other people without realizing that what if they might be going through a really hard time that's why they are not able to do that particular thing!! But you know we don't do it. We don't have a clue what the person who is sitting next to us is going through, we don't know the intensity of the battle that he is fighting, we don't know how hard things are for him, what pain he is hiding behind the beautiful smile! 
So my point isn't that you shouldn't say a word.. what I am trying to say is that be careful with your words! Say whatever but choose the right words which wont cause a harm to that person! Be careful cause you are there to make 'em feel better not to make the already worst situation more worse! Choose words which wont act as knives, choose words which are gonna make there already present issue a bit easier. JUST THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK IS ALL I WANNA SAY! 

If you cant tell , then at least try not to make things more hard by using the right things to say!

Its such an honest, straightforward quote! You know when you were a little girl or even a boy, there was always this barbie dream house that was so magical and just perfect or a remote control car perhaps a Lamborghini .. but it was beyond your reach, so that bond or attachment between you and that toy becomes a thing and you just becomes attach to it, close to it! But you just wont and cant get it cause its beyond your reach and that's the case with life as well you just get awfully and emotionally closed to that dream house that you wont be able to get! There are so many thing on a day to day basis, so many little 'dream house' that you wanna get but you wont be able to.. but you just connects to it!

So somebody said this me and I just thought how deep and real this sentence is, I must say its such a powerful sentence! Life is the hardest thing that we have to survive!!
This world and especially the lives of people other then us always looks like as if its all amazing lined with glitters and sparkles everywhere. But it isn't the truth world isn't a really simple and easy place to be in, its just the most difficult kind of thing. Things that seem so perfect aren't perfect, they seem perfect cause we haven't looked at them closely! Life is hard people. And we only think that OUR life is hard but trust me everyone is fighting a battle to settle in, which we are unaware of!

We are the whingers! We just love to complain about each and every single thing but when it comes to thanking or being grateful for we ain't that good in this field! So I just think that if we complain less and just try to be happy in what we have got, we can make things a lot simpler and easier for ourselves! Another drawback of complaining is that it gives you this sort of title that this person is just the whinger, is is gonna complain whatever the situation is so that won't make your image any good! So just try not to be a whinger be thankful for the things you have got at hand before you lose 'em! 

We all have been there where the only thought we had was that if a certain thing wont happen we are not gonna survive. And everyone knows that, that ain't gonna happen! So if right now you have this thought inside your head that you are not gonna survive trust me you will. I have been through and If I can survive YOU can obviously!!  No matter how hard things get, how hard life gets at the end of the day the clouds will fade and you will see the sunshine so just wait.. patiently! " Have faith and you shall triumph" - Mr Gentleman! :)
So don't worry!  Time shall pass whether its good or bad so just relax and yeah you'll for sure survive! 

So there we go! 
I hope you will be able to relate to it in one way or another!
So I will see you!
Good Luck!