Friday, 3 February 2017

Reasons to smile!

Hello! I hope you doin' well..
So being quite busy both mentally and physically,occupied in stuff and thoughts,today I thought I might talk about the fact that there are various reasons scattered around us to smile and live even in the busiest or 'occupied'  days, when the only thought we have is that how depressed or anxious we are cause there is just a lot going on and we aren't exactly sure how to deal with it.
I had a pretty hefty week, last week with work and so much on my mind as well so at the beginning of it I had the thought that how am I gonna survive it, whats gonna happen, how am I gonna manage, will it ever end and just general depressed questions so what I did was that I made a to do list on my desk and that list freaked me out cause there was a lot to be done in such less time span but I did it and placed it there and convinced myself to survive the busiest week I am gonna have after a long time..
I started it by having a girls day out to just feel great and motivated and that is not the sort of day in which you 'find' reasons to smile yet you have a day of LOLS. So obviously after that it was stressful and when you are stressful you just don't wanna laugh let alone 'smile' so that was me but then I had a thought to myself that its not how I am gonna deal with this week, if I will do it, its gonna make it worse so what I am gonna do is find reasons to smile in little things. I will try my best to pay attention to such things so that's what I did and here I am all happy and cheerful at the prospect that I had a cool yet busy week!:) 
So talking of the to do list that I made at the beginning, everyday when I came back from university and it was the time to tick off one task out of the list I cannot tell how happy it made me because that's the sort of pat-yourself-on-the-back moment and I don't know about others but its something that I savor and find a sensation of relieve that instantly makes me smile so everyday that was one thing which was guaranteed to make me smile! And on the last day when the list was all done I felt so good and accomplished to just having a plain to do list!:) 
Its true that if you set your mind to something then you really do consider what you want to do so as I had set my mind to pay attention to things, mainly little things to make me smile so I was quite keen on a lot of things and was processing more I mean I was comprehending more because I experienced it that we leave so many things unnoticed just because we aren't really keen on noticing 'em but when you set your mind to do something you automatically end up doing that particular thing. So yeah because of that 'mind setting' I actually found way more reasons to smile. One of them being me putting a bit of effort to look more human when I looked like a zombie after an all-nighter doing nothing much but just that conversion from a zombie to human and then looking in the mirror and seeing that you aren't really dying of sleep or work stress just cause you have made cheeky little effort to look alive made me smile cause its the sort of 'before and after' picture. you look semi dead and then just by putting a nice outfit and simply by washing your face you can legit change the look and I don't know  maybe I am crazy to smile at such thing but yeah i did cause I did.. no reason whatsoever!:) And that has a point that you don't have to have a reason to smile just smile without any reservations! So that's that I feel like its all about paying attention movin' on to next, well we usually smile and also laugh at some texts but when we are in a rush or a bit to busy we just look at the text reply if important or just leave it. I was a bit busy when I received a text from my dad saying that he has come to pick me up and I started panicking cause I wasn't free yet, I started panicking cause he will have to wait, not because he is gonna scold me for coming late.. he's not that kinda father:) So while I was stood there in tension, I then received another text from him as if he read my mind or something, saying don't worry I can wait till whenever you get free. Don't take any sort of tension! and that was a text which made me smile a bit harder cause isn't it the sweetest thing ever so yeah that was just great on its own. It was the sort of thing that would have made me smile even if I wasn't on ' the hunt for finding reasons to smile':) but again its the little things! Kinda similar situation as it involves a 'text message' so you know that feeling of joy at a friend's text saying something that you want so that kinda thing happen when in the exact same rush on the exact same day I texted my friend that I want tea because its very cold and obviously I couldn't go so I said that in a non serious way as you do so I got a text from my friend saying come on over I am waiting in a 'serious' way without emojis and stuff which makes texts kinda 'serious' so I smiled cause I took that as a caring gesture while I just said it normally and I don't know but it was something about that text that made me smile:)
Another thing which is quite like weird but as I said that if we will start finding proper reasons behind the things that are gonna make us smile then I don't know but we are gonna make our lives harder so that thing was a raindrop that fell onto my forehead and it was just cool, rain is cool, its fresh its just the best thing ever! Is there any reason not to smile or be in a good mood when it rains I guess not.. see people its just the little things its just a matter of convincing. You can smile even in the most difficult times and that smile is gonna make you feel better its not what I am saying, its a fact! Then if you are a book worm or just love reading, being in a cool bookshop provides way to many reasons to smile its just a strange feeling that only reading lovers or book lovers can get, being around a lot of great books feels like you are surrounded by best friends doesn't it? I think it does so I went out and at the end of the week i wanted to have something nice and cool to read so I saw a novel which was in my wishlist for quite sometime and it screamed at me so I had to get it and it genuinely was a great happy feeling I don't know you might be thinking I am crazy but if so yeah I am cause I adore little things and the way they make me feel:) Now whenever that novel is chilling anywhere as I am currently reading it, whether its on my desk or my night stand or my bed or wherever I leave it which tbh I don't want to do because I want to just savor it all the time how beautifully its written by the best vlogger and blogger Zoe Sugg. No one wants to put it down and also I wouldn't want it to finish well so whenever I go round it I smile and feel very chuffed cause why not!! I adore reading and reading a thing which is making me happy there is no need to find a reason that why its doing so. So yeah its a great feeling to have a good book and just reading it and getting lost in the beauty of it and switching of from million 'depressing' thoughts that you might have its hard to switch of sometimes but sometimes you have to do it!
Getting up looking in the mirror and telling myself that today is gonna be a great one,this thing was another thing which made me smile and helped! Also kinda funny story I was walking and I saw a needy girl and I stopped and thought to myself do I have any money on me and I realized I only have 10 Rs to buy a pen so I thought I might just carry on walking cause I don't have even a penny to give her and then  I started walking and I had a thought that although I dont have much and all I have is a 10 but that might be useful to her and I can just steal a pen from my pals who doesn't do that:) So I reversed and gave her just a 10 Rs note and in return she gave me so many prayers which were way more then just a 10 Rs note and also I think I saw smile on her face which made me smile, a kinda embarrassed situation that she might have understood the dilemma I just had well it just put me in a good mood at the beginning of the day! The point is not to brag that I did an 'awesome act of kindness' I didn't, but the point is find happiness is such little things, they are around you! Life ain't all sad and depressed its full of happiness and cheerfulness but we just look past it and feel as if its only sad its not!!
So yeah the whole point is of paying attention and looking more closely at stuff!

See these are just a fair few things.. What we do is that we think happiness can only be found in huge things but no that's not that true you gotta cherish small things and eventually the bigger ones.
We all know the quote which goes something like when life give you a thousand reasons to feel depressed tell it that you have million reasons to smile and live.. So there ain't no success in proving 'life' right when it gives you reason to be sad about that's the actual time to stand and tell life that you ain't a coward it thinks that you are you aren't a loser and you are way more stronger then anyone can think of. There are 2 reasons for doing so one being proving life wrong and yourself right the other one being people are not really gonna care of your anxiety, your sorrows, your defeats! They are just gonna laugh that you are a coward, instead if you stand up even though if you are dying inside just that standing is gonna give you the courage to live and fight valiantly! And again these are not merely the things for the sake of writing, whatever I write is based on experience and I have experienced it and if I survive anybody can!  I had a really depressed day a few days ago when I thought that I wont be able to survive I am gonna lose nothing is going to work out and just felt my heart sinking and then I thought that no nothing like such and such is gonna happen you have dealt with loads and you are gonna deal with it to so I had a talk with myself which always helps me and I tried to fake a smile and I read it somewhere that if you fake a smile it can put you in a better mood and tbh it did and I was amazed! So get up and tell the life that whatever you throw at me ain't happening bro I am gonna smile and live at the same time BAM! Out of 10 people only 2 or maybe 1 will be the ONE who is actually gonna pa attention cause we ain't got time to deal with our issues how can we pay attention to anyone blabbering about theirs and that's our thoughts these days and its pretty depressing cause its not what we should think we should be really there for people when they need us but sadly we don't do it! so if you aren't really good at sharing your worries with others like me just jot them down in your diary and the pain do vanish!:)
Get up and assign yourself this task of finding reasons to smile trust me you will find so many things and will realize how many things we neglect on day to day basis!:)
Still there are a lot of times which made me smile but I feel like the post is way to long already so I might do a part two, who knows!:) Well I hope you didn't find this post very cheesy or crazy or stupid its just how I am so yeah there you have it!

Good Luck! 
see ya soon with a new post!:)