Does absence makes your heart grow fonder!

Hello people!
I hope your are doin' well!
The other day I was sat wondering as you do, so I came across this thought that people say that when someone is not in contact with you for a while or you leave a work place or maybe an institute etc etc than you eventually get over it and move on. As they say sometimes 'out of sight, out of mind!' which is something I disagree with to some extent because I am of the view that 'absence makes your heart grow fonder'. It is a saying which is mostly related to relationships but when I gave it a hard and fast thought I figured it fits on so many other levels as well!

I think so because when someones not there or the time is not the same anymore, you miss them or that time that you had, a bit more because memories are something that literally haunt you and when they do they leave you in a miserable state of the constant emptiness. So in such case I feel like I agree with 'absence makes your heart grow fonder' and not with 'out of sight out of mind'. I think when you have hold of something or you have something close to you in your custody lets say, you feel for it, you do value it but I have this feeling that when something, some sort of time period is taken away from you, you feel a much stronger feeling towards it and that is what makes your heart really grow fonder!
Some say that in each and every case of life 'distance' is a very important thing, it makes you value more, it makes you fall more, it makes you appreciate more, I agree! but its hard. That time period of being distant from someone, from your home, your home town, your family, your friends or distance of any sort is very hard and painful yet important and beautiful, I say. 

It is hard for obvious reasons and painful as well for obvious reasons too. Why is it important and beautiful you might think well I think that way maybe cause I try to be an optimistic and everything-happens-for-a-reason-kinda-mindset person maybe just maybe so that is why I feel like even distance is beautiful. It is it is, for instance you left your college, now you are grown up you haven't been there for ages and when you see some younger ones and when you tell them about your time, your college time, they see and you feel a really weird and beautiful sort of happiness swirling in your eyes and why exactly does that happen, it does because of the distance, because of that gap that made your heart fonder for your college era. Maybe if you think keenly you didn't like your college as much but now you appreciate it more and love it more cause being away has made you miss that time so much. Similar is the case with people. When someone is not there, is not approachable, its gets more hard than being beautiful but it still is beautiful and it constantly keeps you engages in them gorgeous memories and thoughts of creating more and more. Also, only that distance feels beautiful which we know has an end to it, if we know that 'this' distance is forever now than obviously that's a whole another story, I ain't taking bout that.
Everyone has own perceptions, experiences, thoughts and point of views, mine regarding this is that surely absence makes your heart grow fonder and a lot fonder I might add. Its not a pity party, its not a very glorious thing as I am trying to portray. I am a very realistic person I try to write and tell what is real and not just a fantasy and ' all rainbows and sunshine '  kinda thing. As the absence makes your heart grow fonder, it also gets tougher with every passing day and that's when you have to be that stronger version of yourself. Try to be as much patient and as much positive about it that's the only way you can 'survive' apart from that only hard and painful will stay and not the ' beautiful '  part at all. It's hard but you've got this!

Take care!:)

This too shall pass!

Hello Everyone!!
I hope that life is treating you well and you had a great start to 2018, Happy New Year! 
Lets make this one count!:)
So long time no see. I missed blogging a lot but sometimes life happens and you just can't find time or you just run out of things to talk about so anywho here we are bright and fresh in 2018 and talking of a new year, today I decided to talk about the fact that time keeps on changing. We all know this, its nothing new but I feel that 'this to shall pass' is such a universal truth which we are all familiar with but tho we know it  we don't really comprehend it properly.You might think why or how I can say that so I can say that because I know a lot of people don't think of this universal truth when they are not feeling a 100% or are lacking motivation in their life or when things are not working for them basically.


 I absolutely adore this beautiful Quranic verse!
Just for some seconds think about it, you will feel at ease:)

This phrase 'this too shall pass' is one of them things which I take very seriously in my own life and maybe its one of the things that helps me stay positive about hardships of life, its a good contributing factor to that. The thing which need to be worked on is the process of sitting down and telling yourself about understanding this thing that whatever you are going through will soon pass away and trust me, you wont even remember! 
We live a life which is like a book cause it consists of chapters and if you are a bookworm or read a lot you will for sure agree that the chapters of a book, of a novel are all different Some are happy, some are sad and a lot more kinds but we dont think about life in that form, if we start doing that we will gradually comprehend the fact that ' this too shall pass'. 
My question is why to cling on to things for far to long despite knowing that even your life, your breaths are so damn uncertain, you don't have a clue whether you will live in the next year or not! Then why just why we spend lets say 80% of our life not considering this fact, by just worrying and feeling down and anxious about the future and the pros and cons of things. Life is uncertain and so is the time, it constantly changes and I have touched this topic before that when time is bad don't feel sorry for yourself, consider yourself the luckiest being because you are worthy of being tested! Not everyone is tested for me the ones who are good enough are tested and I think if we take this pressure of passing that test with flying colors as much as we pressurize our self for an exam in school then we are good to go. How to do that you might ask! Its simple.. be patient! That's all, remind your little  self to understand that its a matter of time and it will pass. This thing reminds of Louis Tomlinson's ' just hold on' lyric which goes like 'So what do you want them to say when you're gone?‬ That you gave up or that you kept going on?‬
You know even if your hardships pass and you don't succeed fully but if you stay patient  and keep working on it and don't give up, that has a really good impact on you and your outlook on life! 
Life is small, it really is. So if its treating you well enjoy it before it too pass because time is time and it will pass whether its good or bad! If its good, make the most of it because in my opinion good times tend to pass a bit more quicker.. I think you will agree with me on this.
This year try to make an effort to change your outlook on how you perceive certain things and you know what I feel like life isn't as hard as we try to make it. I know there are times when you feel like you are running short on breath and feel like someone is strangling you, trust me I have been there and its not easy BUT if a normal person like me can survive, why can't you? You yourself is the only person who can make you have a control over it, learn to tackle it and tell yourself that ' hey listen I know you feel like dying and the most useless being that walked this planet but believe me last year you felt the same, didn't you? it got sorted! so why wont it this time? It surely will so just be cool"
BE PATIENT AND HAVE FAITH! Even if you see your life falling into gizzilian pieces in front of your eyes. Things mend with the passage of time and along with a hint of patience, tons of faith and spoonful of prayers and of course a dash of effort :) 

 Just try to live by these words and mark my words life will become easy!
If right now you don't have your life as you want it to be then I just want you to know that all this anxiety and tension on your nerves is for the time being. When you will be out of this phase you will be fine and trust me you wont remember all this! Pray as much as you can and pray with faith! 
I hope 2018 turns out to be the best one for you. Its a new slate right, be the best writer you have ever been and right an awesome year:)

If you gave any experience where you felt like dying but you passed it and it helped you in shaping your personalty, be sure to let us know!
see you soon:')