Lessons Learned #2

Hello Everyone! 

I hope life is treating you well!!

Today I wanted to discuss some more lessons that I have learned, cause I really liked talking about a few in one of my recent posts so I decided it would be cool to talk about 10 more lessons as so I hope it would be worth the read as the last one so lets delve in shall we? :)

• FORGIVING IS A GREAT WAY OF SATISFACTION! 

Some people find forgiving a matter of life and death but to be honest it ain't difficult , the thing which is hard is the first step and once you take it you are going to feel great and it wont make you small at all! People find forgiving hard cause they think that it is going to make them small or lose there worth but the reality is opposite. Forgiving gives you the sort of respect nothing can possibly give you and other then that the amount of satisfaction you get in return is immense. So just learn to forgive and please don't make your life difficult by keeping grudges cause they can and will harm you! Forgiving is hard but it just takes a nice heart to do it and YOU can do it!

• APPRECIATORS ARE WAY MORE THEN CRITICS!

Well it is an understatement that admiring someone or appreciating is the thing which people rarely do but the thing people easily do is to criticize someone cause it gives them the upper hand and make them feel as if they are more sensible but that's not the case! Everyone can relate to this point I believe cause we are criticized several times in our life times as compared to the rate of being appreciated. Doing several good things .. and no real appreciation in return and just do one bad thing critics will emerge from no where within no span of time. Another sad reality but it is true! It takes a lot of strength to appreciate someone, that's why people don't do it as much as they should on the contrary to criticizing and taking out flaws is very easy and doesn't require a lot of strength! People forget that if you appreciate someone they are gonna work wonders in return and on criticism a lot of people feel dis hearten and just don't wanna do anything at all but we the critics don't understand this sadly! I think that we should make a habit of appreciating the little things despite criticizing the huge mistakes!

• TEA FIXES EVERYTHING..WELL MOST THINGS!

Tea.. such a great thing that we are blessed with. Some people don't drink it at all, the others who do drink it are addicted to it, their days are incomplete with out it! I have a cup on my bed side table, which I DIY'ed and I handwrote this quote which goes "You can't buy happiness but you can buy tea and it's pretty much the same thing"! 
I am a tea/coffee addict as well and I honestly am a firm believer that tea fixes most things. And I am the sort of person who gets so fascinated by scenes in films and novels in which the characters are just making a cuppa tea and just the thought of that kettle being on, satisfies me immensely. Then taking that cup from kitchen counter to a window sill and just simply cherishing every sip of that tea makes me wanna get up and make my own cup of tea! and tbh and do that all the time.. So yeah just any kind of tea, we have loads and loads these days, make things a lot simple not in literal meaning but still it just gives you a feeling of contentment which makes you feel better! So if you are reading this make yourself a good old cuppa tea and drink and cherish it as you read this post!

•  YOU MATTER!

Living the sort of busy lives that we are living now, we forget ourselves and just give the whole of ourselves to others, whoever they might be. We forget that we matter. We lost ourselves in this crowded world and forget to find ourselves back again. Its not good to forget who you are for the sake of the world cause world is gonna use you and throw you away like a used tissue paper, you will become part of the trash bin soon! PS it sounds like it has happened to me but thank goodness it hasn't but its just a thing that I have seen... And nobody except YOU can help you in finding yourself!  We give our hearts and souls and what we get nothing.. and people take us for granted!
Taking out time for yourself is as important as giving your time to the world, cause you.. yes you matters! And the things that matters are not left the way you have left it.. Take time for yourself, don't make yourself small that not only you but people around you forget your worth! Give other the time and all but please while doing that don't forget yourself!

• RANTING ABOUT YOUR WEAKNESSES AIN'T GONNA HELP!

Its again a sure thing that people don't really care about you until and unless they really do care about it which is very rare case so whats the point in sharing your weaknesses with like everyone, share it with them you feel comfortable in but not with everyone cause no one is really always there for you and nobody really cares! The sort of time in which we are living, people haven't got time to solve their issues, why would they pay attention to yours so be careful who you chose to share your weaknesses with. You share 'em to make yourself feel a bit stronger but if your choice is wrong then it is gonna make you more weak! But people are gonna use your weaknesses against you so be careful in who you trust!

• EVERYONE HAS A STORY.. UNTOLD!

We being the most sensible people we think we are, are just too good to give sermons to other people without realizing that what if they might be going through a really hard time that's why they are not able to do that particular thing!! But you know we don't do it. We don't have a clue what the person who is sitting next to us is going through, we don't know the intensity of the battle that he is fighting, we don't know how hard things are for him, what pain he is hiding behind the beautiful smile! 
So my point isn't that you shouldn't say a word.. what I am trying to say is that be careful with your words! Say whatever but choose the right words which wont cause a harm to that person! Be careful cause you are there to make 'em feel better not to make the already worst situation more worse! Choose words which wont act as knives, choose words which are gonna make there already present issue a bit easier. JUST THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK IS ALL I WANNA SAY! 

If you cant tell , then at least try not to make things more hard by using the right things to say!

• YOU DON'T ALWAYS GET THE DREAM HOUSE BUT YOU GET AWFULLY CLOSE!

Its such an honest, straightforward quote! You know when you were a little girl or even a boy, there was always this barbie dream house that was so magical and just perfect or a remote control car perhaps a Lamborghini .. but it was beyond your reach, so that bond or attachment between you and that toy becomes a thing and you just becomes attach to it, close to it! But you just wont and cant get it cause its beyond your reach and that's the case with life as well you just get awfully and emotionally closed to that dream house that you wont be able to get! There are so many thing on a day to day basis, so many little 'dream house' that you wanna get but you wont be able to.. but you just connects to it!

• WORLD AIN'T ALL SUNSHINE AND RAINBOWS!

So somebody said this me and I just thought how deep and real this sentence is, I must say its such a powerful sentence! Life is the hardest thing that we have to survive!!
This world and especially the lives of people other then us always looks like as if its all amazing lined with glitters and sparkles everywhere. But it isn't the truth world isn't a really simple and easy place to be in, its just the most difficult kind of thing. Things that seem so perfect aren't perfect, they seem perfect cause we haven't looked at them closely! Life is hard people. And we only think that OUR life is hard but trust me everyone is fighting a battle to settle in, which we are unaware of!

• THANKING MORE AND COMPLAINING LESS AND MAKE YOUR LIFE SIMPLER!

We are the whingers! We just love to complain about each and every single thing but when it comes to thanking or being grateful for we ain't that good in this field! So I just think that if we complain less and just try to be happy in what we have got, we can make things a lot simpler and easier for ourselves! Another drawback of complaining is that it gives you this sort of title that this person is just the whinger, is is gonna complain whatever the situation is so that won't make your image any good! So just try not to be a whinger be thankful for the things you have got at hand before you lose 'em! 

• YOU WILL SURVIVE! 

We all have been there where the only thought we had was that if a certain thing wont happen we are not gonna survive. And everyone knows that, that ain't gonna happen! So if right now you have this thought inside your head that you are not gonna survive trust me you will. I have been through and If I can survive YOU can obviously!!  No matter how hard things get, how hard life gets at the end of the day the clouds will fade and you will see the sunshine so just wait.. patiently! " Have faith and you shall triumph" - Mr Gentleman! :)
So don't worry!  Time shall pass whether its good or bad so just relax and yeah you'll for sure survive! 


So there we go! 
I hope you will be able to relate to it in one way or another!
So I will see you!
Good Luck!

Before you run out of time!

Hello!
I hope everyone is doing well out there!
Today I just wanted to share a really peculiar sort of experience that I experienced a couple of days ago. Well sadly my father's sister passed away and it was a real big loss for us as she was so dear to all of us but we just cant do anything to stop death to take away the people without whom we think that we wont be able to survive, but death is certain and we cant do anything about it rather then just being patient in Allah's will. 

So the thing which I wanted to address today is a really surreal kind of thing which I came across. Well I have seen dead body's before, obviously when a relative or loved one die you go and attend the funerals, but this time it was different.. As I went and sat next to my aunt's dead body for several minutes which I haven't done before. I just stared her without feeling a single thing or thinking a single thing cause I was really down but after some time when I was sat there I just held her hand which was ice cold and kept looking at her face thinking how she was alright when I met her few weeks ago and now she is lying still in front of me and I won't see her like that again in my life! It was surreal for me to see her like that, haven't seen a dead body from that closeness ever! There was something really dejecting. Then I thought  this is what is going to happen to every single one of us! We are gonna die and we will be the most helpless being and we wont be able to do anything. She was a person who would just see us from a distance and will start wishing us, praying for us. Her prayers echoed in my ears when we last went to visit her, I remember we came out of the house and I was still able to hear her praying for our save journey, but now I was there, really close to her but she couldn't greet me, she couldn't greet any of us. She was helpless in her own way and I was helpless in my own! I was talking to her but was unable to get a reply! It was really bizarre to look at this situation cause haven't seen it like this before. So I just stared her so that I can have her saved as a memory in myself forever. Then I thought to myself that this is the ultimate end of us and we all are familiar but somehow we forget that we are going to be in the same place sooner or later. A time will come when we will be as ineffectual as her lying in front of me! And we will be just so powerless and so dependent on others and I don't know how to put my feelings into words, the feelings that I felt that night. They are quite difficult to be explained! So while being there looking at her in complete despair, a flashback sort of started. All the times that I spent with her throughout my life. I saw her life which was incredibly great! A life that she lead was a life worth living. Alhamdullilah it was complete in every aspect! So the whole film kind of played in front of me and I thought that we are alive and we can breath and we know our ultimate end but still we do things which we know we shouldn't do, which are prohibited  but we still do cause we think that we are not gonna die but that ain't gonna happen we have to die and we will! So I imagined myself there for a while and thought to myself that I am going to be in her position someday it could be tomorrow or it could be years from now on but I decided that I want to lead a life that is worthy, that is at least a good one so that when I die people will say that she lead a life which was really appreciable and I don't mean that I want to be famous or make a big name, not at all. What I mean is that a life which has the balance of everything! A life in which you remember that you are gonna die so by having that thought in head you are definitely going to do less sins, a life which is simple, a life in which you seek forgiveness from Allah Pak, a life in which you forgive others no mater how much harm they have caused you, a life in which there is more love and no hatred, a life which is lived under limitations, a life which is somehow going to help others, a life which will make you be remembered, a life which will be appreciated by Allah! 

So the thing is that live a good life before you run out of time, before you become so helpless that you become unable to do anything. When you will be dying, the only thing you will have will be regrets so live a life which wont't make you regret anything! Forgive and seek forgiveness! Meet the ones you haven't seen in a while,with whom you are angry for silly reasons. Life is too short and unpredictable to hold arguments with the people you love, meet them and forgive them before you run out of time!! Love the people around you! Spread happiness like confetti!

I am just saying all this cause the way I have looked at death this time , I can't really express and put that into words, that helpfulness but yeah it has made my belief of dying a bit more stronger and has made me more strong that obviously we all know that we are going to die but now I know it more clearly and hopefully it will help me in becoming a good human being!

Be a good human before you run out out time and be a powerless thing!!
So May Allah grant my aunt the highest place in Jannah! 
May her soul Rest in peace!!
May Allah give us, the people who love her, patience!
See ya!

Live A Little!

Hello!
I hope everything is good at your end!
We are human , and it is in human nature that we just love change surely because of this nature when we are little we are just so desperate to get a bit old cause we think that life is a life of bliss , similary  we keep on wishing for the next chapter of our lives until we reach a point and say "I wish I could just turn back time" but sadly that's something impossible! And that ain't gonna happen!

I was watching a film the other day and in that film the girl turned 13 and on her birthday she just gets annoyed and just wants to fast forward her life and reach the age of 30 so in the film something happens and she becomes 30 year old , exactly the way she wanted but she see things and regret her eagerness of turning 30 at some point , well that is a whole other story and I am not here promoting that film so I should better just stick to the point. So my point here is that  try to live in the moment! that is important and stop wishing for your life to just rush away trust me its by no means a good thing! And you are for sure going to reach that stage soon where you will wish and beg to go back.
Just like a book every chapter of our life is interesting in its own colors and we just don't appreciate that and just think that definitely the next chapter is going to have much more beautiful things. And because of that rushing we forget to enjoy the current chapter we are on. We should live our life exactly the way we read a book.. And that way is that a book is not complete without all the chapters, if one chapter is missed , it just spoils the essence of a great book! So don't do that with your life!! It is a book and surely a great one because its author is the best Author of all.
So if you are at a stage of your life and you are super desperate to fast forward it , I would say please don't do it because it will harm you and make you sad surely!
Enjoy the essence of every chapter.
Well I think when we are little , adulthood is just an amazing charming thing to us but trust me childhood is and will always be the BEST time of our lives. I mean time like that , a chapter like that is not going to come in your book ever again. We the adults just want to go back because that was for sure the wonderful era of our lives and being a teenager myself , who is nearly a young adult , I think I should have savored the amazingness of my childhood a bit more then I did! Learn from me.. I am nearly at the end of my teenage years and I just want to go back to that time where there was freedom of everything. Where the biggest worry was missing your favorite show or not getting a toffee at a gathering and that was about it! but now things are difficult way more difficult then one could imagine, way more complications which one never wish to happen! So conclusion Childhood is the most tension free time of our life , the most cute time I must say where everything is just utterly amazing. And I am not saying that adulthood is not great it is awesome it has got its own perks! I personally loved being a teenager myself but yeah I do miss me being a little girl, that was a lot easier in a manner of speaking! :) yeah and now I am looking forward to my years of being young adult ( if I live obviously cause you never now, life is just to unpredictable) ! So yeah I ain't complaining!! don't get me wrong.. Life is great Alhamdullilah!!
Every stage is pleasurable in it's own way, just like I explained before with the book chapter example!! But I stressed upon childhood a lot as I know during that time everyone wants to be an adult as soon as possible :)

Problem is that most of the children don't understand this and want to rush there lives, which is so annoying I wish they understand the importance and greatness of time they are going through..
So the whole point of my ramble is cherish the time which you have at your hands because whats gone is gone and future is never guaranteed because life is just so unpredictable!
Stop moving fast, LIVE A LITTLE , live slowly enjoy every line of your book.. some might be a bit more for you to handle but don't worry time has this incredible quality of passing
whether good or bad! So just calm down and slow up a bit and LIVE cause that is important and we often forget to do it!

See! 

Don't let yourself suffer through this..

Enjoy your life!

Lessons Learned.

Hello!
I hope everything is perfect at your end!
So we live and we learn. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, there could be several possibilities for that particular happening. Sometime we gain something, sometime we gain nothing but a lesson!
So today I am going to talk about few lessons that I have learned in my approximately 19 years of living!
I always try to learn things from everything and sometimes the lesson you learn are really good for you and can help you in living the rest of your life more 
beautifully.
Obviously 19 years is not a less time its approximately 2 decades which is huge amount of time so yeah I believe I learned a lot form a lot of things!
Today I am going to share 7 lessons that I have learned so far!

• POSITIVE THINKING CAN DO WONDERS!

So the first is about positive thinking, I have this handwritten quote in my room which says " Think like a proton and stay positive". A few years back I decided to think about everything in a much much positive manner and to be honest I have seen that positive thinking can for sure do wonders! 
Just by thinking positively about anything the whole perception about the thing and even the thing itself can change. Why we think negatively when we know it can do 

nothing to the other but it can for sure harm us in several ways! So yeah just think positively about each and everything and see what happens!! Be optimistic!

• DON'T EXPECT!

We just love to expect others to be the same as we are to them but it never always happen , it does happen but very rarely. Not everyone in this huge world has got the stamina to do so. I think that the quote " Never expect form others because expectations leads to disappointment", is so true. When we expect and our expectations are not fulfilled we get disappointed and lost. So whats the point in expecting , just go with the flow , try to be happy and optimistic in every situation but try not to expect a lot from a lot of people. Be thankful if someone do good to you but don't be sad if that doesn't happen , this is only possible if we expect less and live
more!

       "Expect nothing, appreciate everything"

• YOU CAN NEVER PLEASE EVERYONE!

This one is a big one and a sure one I would say. Everyone is this world is of different temperament and we know everybody is different. Something which is loved by 
someone is hated by the other. So nobody is same and you can never in a million years please everyone. You can for sure try to please everyone but its a very rare case
at the end of the day! 

Well said.. I wish I was a Nutellla jar! 

• NEVER MAKE YOURSELF SMALL!

We often get this feeling that we are nothing or we are useless, I myself used to think this way a few years back but somebody once told me that every being is here for a reason and you are not useless, there must be a task that would be assigned to you it could be small it could be huge, but there will be something, don't make yourself small and show the world that you are something , have faith in yourself and love yourself first and never degrade yourself!
And someone once told me "Try to live as a big fish otherwise the big fish wont let you live!". A great piece of advice there!
So the moral is just never make yourself small just never degrade your ideals! Respect them.

• NOT EVERYONE GETS HAPPY IN YOUR HAPPINESS!

So the next lesson is that it is a very rare case that people will get happy in your happiness. In this huge world there are a few people who genuinely gets happy in the happiness of others and those who do so in my opinion are really great beings! Hats off to you if you are one of them. But yeah it is a bitter truth and we can't do anything except changing our own mind sets and try to be happy in other people's happiness! It won't cause any harm to us in the slightest instead it will make you content!

• WORLD IS A GREAT SPEAKER BUT NOT A GOOD LISTENER!

In life we come across a lot of people and the thing I noticed in meeting people was that this world is a great speaker but not a good listener, everyone wants his 
story to be heard but a fare few are willing to listen to the story of others. Everyone can talk for several hours but can't listen for few minutes, I mean I think 
its so true and everyone can relate to this point as well. But still there are some good listeners out there and I hope hat the great speakers will become good listeners one day! 

This point brings me onto the next lesson...

• ONLY ALLAH PAK IS ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU!

As the world doesn't hear us there is only Allah who is always there for us , who always listens to us.
We have a lot of people in our lives some are friends some are best friends. We do share quite a lot of our lives , our feelings with them and they are our strong backs but still no one is ALWAYS there for you expect Allah. He is always by our side whether we neglect Him , whether we obey him. A saying in Urdu which says " Even shadow leave you in difficult times" it is true! But I am not saying that friends are not there for us, they are for sure but still Allah is the only one who is and will always be there for you! 
Share your sorrows, your happiness hence each and every aspect of life with Him! Discuss your issues with him and see how good and relieved you will feel in return. Talk with Him and feel great, the feeling you get when you talk with Him
is for me the best feeling in the whole entire world!!


So here we go those were a FEW of the many lessons that I have learned.

Learn from life!
I will see you soon!
Bye!
Be happy!
Be optimistic!
Be simple.
And learn!

DIY: Pin board.

Hello!
I hope that everything is perfect out there!
A long time ago I uploaded my first ever DIY post about a motivational wall of my room so it was about time that I change my wall because everybody loves a good change so I decided to do something different to it. So I completely changed the wall it was a lot colorful before but as I change my room colors to black, white and grey with a pop of orange so I just have to change the wall as well. 
So I decided to make a pin board, have seen quite a lot of pin boards ideas on Pinterest so I was tempted to make one myself! So that is what I am going to talk about in today's post!
Just a little info if you don't alread know wha DIY stands for, it stands for "Do it yourself". So yeah lets do it!

Second DIY:
The idea behind a Pin board in my opinion is that you just pin your favorite things or some inspirational things on a board. Yeah it is as simple as it sounds.

Lets get started:
I am a hoarder, I just love keeping things that people give me. I cant get rid of them because I have sentimental relation with those cheeky little things and I love hand written notes or drawings or just small things which have some memories behind. So the point of this little story is that what I did with my Pin board is that a pinned few of my fave things on the board. I have and love a lot of stuff but obviously cant pin all of that so I pined few little things. And the benefit of pinning things is that you can change things whenever!!

Things you will need:

• Thermocol sheet.
• Few of you fave things or some motivational or inspirational things. Or visual demonstrations of your goals. Its up to you.
• Thumb pins. You can get creative with this as there are various varieties of thumb pins these days.
• Most importantly, your creativity. 

So that's all. Just create what you want to create with it. Take your thoughts into account and vision things in your head and there you go voila! Its super duper simple.

My sad wall! looking bare without my quotes.

The thermocol

So it's completely you choice what you want to do but if you want to know what I did fr my pin board... carry on reading.
Firstly I took the thermocol and I also took a black chart paper and just cut it diagonally and paste it onto the left side of the thermocol and then I wrote one of my absolute fave quote , a really cute one.

So I hand wrote it on orange chart and pinned it on the the black paper. And then I just carried on pinning a few of my fave things..

So it has got a mixture of things ranging from two tickets of my favorite trip on my own, a Griffindor badge, some cards , a drawing from my friend, a hand written " blessed", a paper airplane form loads of them..
I think its pretty cute! 

Then I just pasted some circles around the board and we are done!
here's the final look!

Drum roll! :)

I hope you liked it.

will see you pretty soon with a new post! 

Until then take care!

Bye!